There is a common and sometimes overly used saying that- nothing happens before it’s time. To the impatient, disgruntled, dissatisfied, frustrated, and agitated person, this saying sounds like the scraping of nails on a chalkboard- no one wants to hear it. For the seasoned individual who has a lot of personal and professional experiences under their belt, this makes sense and is truer than most would care to admit.
If you’ve never experienced heartache, pain, rejection, disappointment, or grief before, as the old folks will say, “keep on living” because eventually, you will. When it happens, it requires an insurmountable amount of grace to be extended to yourself to keep from crumbling under the pressures of life. Nonetheless, despite these challenges, as mentioned earlier on, timing is E-VE-RY-THING. And, nothing will happen for you until 1) you are prepared to receive it, 2) you are ready to receive it, 3) you can handle it, and 4) it is time for you to receive it. Until these four areas are in alignment, you will be in the waiting phase and whatever it is cannot and will not be expedited, unless you want to cycle through disappointment, frustration, anger, etc. again. How do I know…hahahahaha…“keep on living…” Experience was and is my greatest teacher.
About a year and a half ago, I was in a quandary professionally. The environment I was in did not provide me with the space to live authentically, to bring my complete professional self to the table, and it was a space where I had to dim my light and passion for my work, and fall in (a very rigid) line, so others could be comfortable with their position, place, and title. Sounds familiar to anyone? Lol It was stifling, unhealthy, and toxic, and I quickly became unhappy with it because it was quite frankly, not who I was raised or prepped educationally to be. I was pushed, literally and figuratively, to really reflect, consider, and reconsider, the type of professional environment I wanted to be in, the type of leadership I wanted to follow and emulate, and more importantly, what a meaningful, impactful, and balanced life would look like for me. This resulted in me refocusing, conceding my need to be in control, being brutally honest with myself, and it consisted of me honing in on who I really wanted to be, the quality of life I wanted, and identifying and leaning in on what I am most passionate about- writing, education, youth, and youth development.
This experience taught me a key lesson about life- I have zero control over it (insert devastated face lol). As a result, and given my inability to predict what will happen in the future, I learned to, as the saying goes, let go and let God. If you are not believer, then let go and let life flow in whatever direction you feel called or led to within your heart of hearts. I became deliberate in what I did, for whom, when I did it, at what and whose expense, and was intentional in making sure that it was in alignment with what I knew within myself, I was called to do and be. I relinquished my need to be in control, and began to live my life with undeniable clarity, a lot more purposefully, and even more authentically, staying true to who and whose I am.
The reason why I brought up this example, is this- timing. It is everything. But for that unpleasant experience and professional environment, I would not be where I am today as a person, and as an education professional. It has taught me empathy, compassion, mindfulness, and self-awareness; it has taught me about perception and how it can be aligned with or completely far from reality, it has taught me about what it means to be a good leader, and about what is required to be an effective leader based on showing me what leadership is not. It also taught me to not let anyone or thing control or stifle me because it is self-destructing. Had it not been for that experience, I would not have explored the idea of monetizing my work, I would not have paid as much attention to focusing on an idea that was brewing and that I had toyed with for over 5 years in the blogosphere- an online platform that is all things youth, education, and Barbados-related- and I would not have met the people that I know, and had the experiences that I had, if I had not been redirected. Some of the people that I have met and the opportunities that I have had since that 1.5 years ago have forever impacted and positively changed and improved my life personally, professionally, and financially. I am a better person and professional, for it. For that lesson and experience, I am eternally grateful.
All of what was said was to ultimately say- everything you have experienced in the past was in preparation for where you are now. Everything you are experiencing is in preparation for where you are going. Hindsight is truly 20/20 and experience does breed wisdom. I have learned to be thankful for every experience, whether welcome or unwelcome, and I have learned that each experience serves a purpose- to help redirect, nudge, propel and/or to launch you into the person you are destined to be. So, walk in and on purpose. Timing is absolutely everything because it ensures that you are ready and well-prepared to receive what is coming, at the time you are scheduled to receive it. I continue to and want to walk in my purpose, don’t you…?